Perfectly Imperfekt provides a structured support group for girls/boys ages 9-18. Once or twice a week the facilitator meets with the participants in a “safe place” to implement scheduled and planned activities.
It aims to counteract social and interpersonal forces that impede girls’ growth and development by promoting an emotionally safe setting and structure within which girls can develop caring relationships and use authentic voices. Each week as the facilitator, we lead our group of girls through a format that includes each girl taking turns talking and listening to one another respectfully about their concerns and interests. The girls express themselves further through creative or focused activities such as role playing, drama, journalism, poetry, drama, dance, drawing, collage, and many other topics. Gender specific themes are introduced which relate to the girls’ lives, such as being a girl, trusting ourselves, friendships, body image, goals, sexuality, drugs, alcohol, tobacco, competition, and decision-making and many more topics.
In regards to the male aspect of the organization; The Council meets a core developmental need in boys for strong, positive relationships. In this structured environment, boys and young men gain the vital opportunity to address masculine definitions and behaviors and build their capacities to find their innate value and create good lives – individually and collectively.
The group format includes warm up activities, a “council” type check in opportunity, experiential activities that address relevant topics, and a reflection and group dialogue component. The focused activities may include group challenges, games, skits or role plays, arts, and so on. Topics may address:
- The male “box”
- Valuing Diversity
- Safe expression of emotions
- Defining power from multiple perspectives
- Influences of mentors and role models
- Rejecting violence
- Becoming allies with girls and women
- Mentoring and making a difference with others
- Making safe and healthy decisions for themselves
- Finding and living with value in difficult times
Rather than attempting to “instill values”, the model strengthens boys’ inherent preference to live according to good and diverse pro-social values. We provide resiliency and youth development practices and concepts: youth are knowledgeable, wise, and helpful to each other when facilitators are courteous and respectful, share responsibility and leadership, and demonstrate belief in their abilities to rise to the challenges in group and in life.